The college admissions season can be a stressful time for both students and parents. As acceptance letters start rolling in, a mix of emotions–excitement, disappointment, confusion–can take hold. Here are some tips for parents and students in navigating the ups and downs of the process:
Parents:
- Show love and support: Acknowledge your child’s hard work and emphasize their achievements, regardless of the outcome. Reassure them that their worth isn’t defined by admissions decisions.
- Create a safe space for emotions: Allow space for them to express their emotions without judgment. Help them process disappointment constructively.
- Maintain perspective: Remind them that college is one step, not the final destination. Focus on the exciting possibilities ahead, encouraging them to explore other options.
- Celebrate all acceptances: Each acceptance is noteworthy and deserves recognition!
- Manage expectations: Admissions are subjective, and outcomes can come down to a game of numbers. Remind your child (and yourself!) that rejections aren’t a reflection of their value or abilities. Encourage your child to focus on the opportunities ahead.
Students:
- Don’t take rejections personally: Admissions are often based on factors beyond your control. Focus on the schools that accepted you, and the many opportunities ahead.
- Express your feelings: Talk about your emotions. Don’t bottle them up.
- Consider all options: Explore the strengths of each school to which you received an acceptance. Choose the best fit for your needs.
- Stay positive: Remember, there are many exciting opportunities ahead, regardless of your application outcomes.
- Express Gratitude: Thank those who supported you, from teachers and coaches to counselors, mentors, friends and family
Parents & Students:
- Share with care: Discuss how (and whether) to share college news with friends and peers. Be mindful of social media and how you are perceiving others’ news, as well as how you might share your own.
- Treat Yourselves: Once the dust settles, celebrate!!